Myths about spirituality

“Do things for others, it makes you feel better”. This is a very common spiritual principle that is going around but I must say that in my private practice I’m dealing with a lot of people who have spent their lives doing things for others and it didn’t make them feel better. In fact, all they got was disrespect, being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. There probably is a segment of the population that needs to be encouraged to do things for others, but a lot of other people need to be encouraged to take care of themselves and make sure they are meeting their own needs. They will probably always do things for others because they are generous and caring but without taking care of themselves first they end up feeling frustrated and often depressed. So next time when you want to do something for someone else stop and as yourself: is this what I really want to do? Is it really needed? Am I taking care of myself in this situation?

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2 Responses to Myths about spirituality

  1. kundaliniconnection says:

    I agree that Love (and loving actions) for others must be preceded by Self Love, not in a Narcissistic way, but rooted in realization of your own self-worth and abundance. If you are deeply aware this self-abundance, only then you can share it with others and feel good about it (not depleted emotionally or feeling like you’ve been take advantage of). I am glad you’ve pointed out this possibly common misconception.

  2. Linda Grinde says:

    The shadow of the caregiver archetype is the character that gives from an empty container, thus creating only resentment and bitterness in spite of good intentions. The true caregiver gives from an overflowing cup. Each of us must fill our own cup first before we offer ourselves to others. Mothers especially need to hear this advise.

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