“Do things for others, it makes you feel better”. This is a very common spiritual principle that is going around but I must say that in my private practice I’m dealing with a lot of people who have spent their lives doing things for others and it didn’t make them feel better. In fact, all they got was disrespect, being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. There probably is a segment of the population that needs to be encouraged to do things for others, but a lot of other people need to be encouraged to take care of themselves and make sure they are meeting their own needs. They will probably always do things for others because they are generous and caring but without taking care of themselves first they end up feeling frustrated and often depressed. So next time when you want to do something for someone else stop and as yourself: is this what I really want to do? Is it really needed? Am I taking care of myself in this situation?